Dealing with Conflict with Aging Adults


While getting older is a time of life that can be full of joy and excitement, it can also come with its fair share of challenges. Aging can mean that the physical abilities a person has had their whole life are suddenly on the decline. It can also translate to not being in control of certain decisions about daily life that once entirely belonged to an individual. Aging may even mean that a person’s memory has significantly deteriorated. Drastic adjustments like these can often lead to confusion, denial, and even anger.

Although these are understandable reactions, dealing with an elderly person who is agitated or even aggressive can be intimidating if you are unprepared. You may even find yourself in a situation where you are disagreeing with a family member as to how to care for your elderly loved one. No matter where the source of this extra stress is coming from, here are a few recommended ways you can be dealing with conflict when it comes to being a caretaker for an elderly patient.

Understand Their Viewpoint

To properly calm down a loved one who is struggling with the realities of aging, or to relate to a relative who has a different philosophy when it comes to caretaking, you must make it evident that you understand what they are going through. Make it known that they have every right to be frustrated and even scared, as do you. But what comes next is working with them to determine how to productively express that justified confusion. Jude Bijou, author of Attitude Reconstruction: A Blueprint for Building a Better Life, also emphasizes that talking less and listening more to their reasoning will allow more support and understanding on both sides.


Stay Focused on the Issue

Whether the conflict is with a sibling or whether it is with the elderly relative you are caring for, staying focused on the current issues is absolutely critical to finding a productive solution. According to our friends at A Hand to Hold, it’s tempting to bring a lifetime’s worth of petty fights and issues into an argument dealing with elderly care. Instead, focus on the here and now and what needs to be resolved to improve the daily care of your loved one. Although the conversation may still be heated and emotional, staying on message and not bringing past conflict into the conversation will ensure a calmer attitude for everyone.

Have the Right Attitude

Having a negative perception of how a difficult conversation will go will only make the end results more difficult. Instead, be happy knowing that no matter what the journey looks like, the end result means a quality and healthy lifestyle for your elderly family member. According to Lifeline Medical Alert Systems, conflict must be dealt with positively, where good solutions and efforts are the end game, not “winning an argument”. Respect for all involved is the best way to have a realistic and loving conversation about the next steps for your elderly family.

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5 Fun Activities for Seniors to Enjoy

5 things seniors can enjoy

Some seniors may not be as mobile as they once were, but that doesn’t mean that they have to stop having fun. Adding daily activities into a loved one’s life who may not be as active can help improve brain function, boost their immune system, and helps maintain their emotional health. Here are 5 fun activities to try with your loved one the next time you visit.

1.Art Projects
You’ll never know if you’re loved one is a secret artist if you don’t give them the tools to try it. Enjoying an art project can be therapeutic and is easy for people with low mobility. Try asking them what type of medium they like or subject matter they want to focus on and use that as inspiration for the project.

2. Read
If your loved one has a passion for reading but isn’t able to do it on their own anymore, try reading them their favorite book, magazine, or newspaper. You could even make a list of one book a month you’d like to read with them, or if you aren’t able to visit as often as you’d like, you could also set them up with a few audiobooks to listen to.

3. Try New Hobbies

Perhaps your loved one had a hobby they always loved doing but moved away from it because life got too busy, or they want to try something new and they need your help starting off. Whether it be knitting, collecting stamps, or learning a new language, exploring a new hobby can be a great way to connect in a new way.

4. Watch Their Favorite Movies
Sometimes all you want to do is watch your favorite movie. Ask your loved one what their favorite movie or television show was and see if you can find it for you watch together.

5. Exercise

Even if your loved one isn’t as mobile as they once were, you can always do chair exercises, chair yoga, or take short walks with them. This will help them keep their bodies moving and is a great bonding experience for both of you.

At Elder Care Staffing Solutions, our companion care services allow your loved one to receive the attention and companionship they deserve. Give us a call today at 914-265-4299, or visit our website for more information on our companion care services.


The Benefits of Home Health Care

Many people are juggling everything life throws at them: a demanding job, busy kid schedules, and making sure your home is running like a well-oiled machine. There are also many Americans out there who also have the added stress of caring for a loved one that may be disabled, which can become quite overwhelming if you’re trying to make tough emotional decisions. If you’re in this situation, you may want to consider home health care, and here’s why.

  1. They’re there when you can’t be
    You can’t be everywhere at once, so this is where home health care comes in. It can give you the peace of mind you’re looking for knowing that trained professionals are there for your loved one and making sure they have everything they need. From making simple corrections in the home to assess safety risks, they have your back.
  2. They assist with daily living
    Activities of daily living, or ADLs, are things that people do every day that may come as a challenge to someone with a disability. Home health care can be a solution for many who need assistance with things like bathing, grooming, or medication reminders, but still want to maintain their independence.
  3. Diet and Nutritional Support
    One of the main problems for someone with a disability is being able to get the best diet and nutrition. Staying healthy and getting the proper nutrition is key to staying as healthy as possible, so having home health care to support you with nutritional counseling and home-cooked meals is a win-win for everyone.
  4. Skilled nursing care
    If you’re looking for more skilled nursing care, home health care can provide that for you. Certified, licensed, and knowledgeable nurses are available through home health care and will ensure all of your loved one’s complex medical needs are being met.
  5. Companionship
    We want to be there for our loved ones as much as possible, but sometimes that isn’t always doable. Home health care can be a way for your loved one to get the companionship they need. A nurse can quickly turn into a friend for walks, reading, games, and even movies.


If you’re in need of home health care for your loved one, Elder Care Staffing Solutions can be a great option for you. We proudly serve the Dutchess, Putnam, Westchester, and Bronx areas. Give us a call today at 914-265-4299.

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