While getting older is a time of life that can be full of joy and excitement, it can also come with its fair share of challenges. Aging can mean that the physical abilities a person has had their whole life are suddenly on the decline. It can also translate to not being in control of certain decisions about daily life that once entirely belonged to an individual. Aging may even mean that a person’s memory has significantly deteriorated. Drastic adjustments like these can often lead to confusion, denial, and even anger.

Although these are understandable reactions, dealing with an elderly person who is agitated or even aggressive can be intimidating if you are unprepared. You may even find yourself in a situation where you are disagreeing with a family member as to how to care for your elderly loved one. No matter where the source of this extra stress is coming from, here are a few recommended ways you can be dealing with conflict when it comes to being a caretaker for an elderly patient.

Understand Their Viewpoint

To properly calm down a loved one who is struggling with the realities of aging, or to relate to a relative who has a different philosophy when it comes to caretaking, you must make it evident that you understand what they are going through. Make it known that they have every right to be frustrated and even scared, as do you. But what comes next is working with them to determine how to productively express that justified confusion. Jude Bijou, author of Attitude Reconstruction: A Blueprint for Building a Better Life, also emphasizes that talking less and listening more to their reasoning will allow more support and understanding on both sides.


Stay Focused on the Issue

Whether the conflict is with a sibling or whether it is with the elderly relative you are caring for, staying focused on the current issues is absolutely critical to finding a productive solution. According to our friends at A Hand to Hold, it’s tempting to bring a lifetime’s worth of petty fights and issues into an argument dealing with elderly care. Instead, focus on the here and now and what needs to be resolved to improve the daily care of your loved one. Although the conversation may still be heated and emotional, staying on message and not bringing past conflict into the conversation will ensure a calmer attitude for everyone.

Have the Right Attitude

Having a negative perception of how a difficult conversation will go will only make the end results more difficult. Instead, be happy knowing that no matter what the journey looks like, the end result means a quality and healthy lifestyle for your elderly family member. According to Lifeline Medical Alert Systems, conflict must be dealt with positively, where good solutions and efforts are the end game, not “winning an argument”. Respect for all involved is the best way to have a realistic and loving conversation about the next steps for your elderly family.

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